"Once the home is put back together, then have ministry come out of that"

dDr. Jeffrey Klick is pastor of Hope Family Fellowship in Kansas City. Klick has authored several books, including Generational Impact, which was the subject of today's interview.

It sounds like your church takes seriously the family. Give us an overarching view of what y'all are doing.

We've taken a different approach to ministry.

My first 11 years I was a pastor, I spent in a traditional manner.

I watched the parade of young people walking away.

This was really frustrating to me, because we were spending millions and millions of dollars.

Once the home is put back together, then have ministry come out of that.

We encourage families to get their act together at home, then minister together.

There's all kinds of things going...and explosion of ministry that isn't regulated or done by the church per se.

How are you training families to do this?

Well we have a vision statement...of what we're trying to accomplish with this church.

If your Christianity isn't working in your home, don't export it.

Since we're not an activity-oriented church, there's more time for me...to invest in people's lives.

Let's make disciples and start with the people under our own roof.

I look at every Sunday's sermon as 52 counseling sessions with my congregation.

How do you minister to singles?

We have a lot of single people.

The scripture says that God places lonely people in families.

Isolating the singles often to their own little world isn't a real environment.

So we encourage our older singles to integrate into what the church is doing and what it's about.

We don't isolate anyone. You lose a lot of cross-generational pollenization...when you isolate people.

We encourage them to serve, not just at our body, but there are parachurch organizations around the world.

Do you teach these families how to have devotions together, how to discipline?

Certainly. And we'll do a variety of things.

There's an awful lot of relationship building going on.

There's a tremendous amount of teaching and role modeling going on.

You write in your book about "generational warfare." What do you mean by that?

The Bible is very clear that we have an enemy who wants to destroy.

If I were the devil, the first thing I would try to do is destroy the family.

If we're unaware...that the enemy wants to destroy the family, we won't be prepared.

We're in a battle, we're in a war.

Dating or courtship. What's the difference?

Dating is what most of us grew up with.

You try somebody out...and when you break up, you must move on.

We tend to favor the other model which is don't get involved with someone until you're ready for marriage.

How do you find that girl of yours a man?

You won't. God is sovereign.

If you have a daughter, there are going to be some young men who are interested in your daughter.

Ideally, they would come talk to you.

God is the one who puts relationships together.